You may or may not agree, but I think that Facebook has become a national pastime. Move over baseball and Reality TV, FB is taking up more and more of our time. But even more alarming is the fact that…
Facebook is becoming a prime hook-up spot for the emotionally restless.
After all, one of the main benefits of FB is that it provides a perfect setting to create a false façade of how great your life is.
You know the drill. You run out to Glamour Shots and upload your most attractive or seductive pose for all the FB world to see. You only post pictures of all the great times you’re having. Your status only includes funny, clever or thought-provoking statements that you just might steal from your clever, witty and super smart friends. You post your location status when you’re at the most fun and exciting spots. I don’t think I’ve ever seen a status revealing that you’re at your kitchen sink doing the dishes or in your laundry room sorting through dirty underwear and socks.
Then you add fuel to the fire by becoming “friends” with that old flame you never really got over from high school. Oh, and by the way, he’s divorced now and “likes” your latest status, “I just love Bon Jovi’s song, Runaway.” And all of a sudden you remember that your first kiss was while this song was playing, and oh yeah, he was the one you found your virgin lips locking with! Cue the big hair and electric guitar screeching in the corners of your mind.
Suddenly you feel 20 years younger and those old tingly feelings you felt during the acne years have made an abrupt and romantic resurgence—too bad those tingly feelings aren’t coming from your spouse!
Okay, okay, I’m making fun of this and it’s really not a laughing matter. But when we break it down like this we see the foolishness of it—the immaturity of it—we also see the deception that fuels our misguided feelings.
I’m not going to go so far as to say that FB creates or seduces a person into having an affair. But I do think it creates an environment that makes it easier for a person (who is already buying a whole host of lies about themselves, their marriage, how to achieve their desires and who can fulfill them) to fall prey to its charms and illusion.
So what does all of this mean for you and me?
- I think we need to recognize the lies and illusion that FB often spins.
- I think we also need to be careful about who we “friend” on FB and always ask our spouse about any that are especially questionable.
- I think we need to be honest with our spouses about all of our activities on FB.
- I also think we need to be careful about what we post or put out there on FB.
Let this be a litmus test – would you want your spouse to see everything you are saying or doing on FB? Would you want God to see it?