How to Avoid the Money Trap with Your Children

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One of the primary ways Satan can sink his hooks in us as Christ-followers and Christ-following families is with money and wealth. 

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Though we can fall into the “money trap” all year round, it is especially compelling at this time of year with Christmas just around the corner. Not only that but, with COVID impacting most of our incomes, we can be tempted to stretch ourselves too thinly, racking up debt just to make someone smile.

Several years ago, my husband suggested that we stop giving gifts at Christmas since it shifts our primary focus from the “Gift” (Christ) to each other. 

Great idea! However … 

I just couldn’t stomach the idea of not buying gifts for my sons and extended family members. I loved being able to bless them (still do!) with a gift they might not have bought for themselves or to give them money to buy something they couldn’t afford without our help. 

If this was all it amounted to—simply blessing others—then it might not be such a trap. Especially when we stick with God’s idea of what a “blessing” really involves. 

It’s just that buying gifts and pursuing money or wealth can snowball on us, especially when it comes to our kids at Christmas time. 

Consider how Jesus replied to someone who wanted to follow Him …

“Foxes have dens and birds have nests, but the Son of Man has no place to lay his head.” Luke 9:58

Jesus was content to sleep on the cold, hard ground. Yet, we feel we’re deprived if we can’t buy an ergonomic pillow for our heads or a new bedspread and sheets imprinted with our kid’s favorite action figures. 

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Please do not misunderstand me!

I’m not saying that buying these things is sinful. It’s just that we need to check our motives and methods when dealing with money, especially when it comes to our children. 

Today, I will be pulling out some insights and tips for avoiding this trap from the passage in 1 Timothy 6:6-10. 

1.  Pursue contentment as Christ-following parents.

“But godliness with contentment is great gain.” 1 Timothy 6:6

The Greek word Paul used for contentment here is autarkeia and means that we do not need anything other than Christ to bring satisfaction. Christ, after all, provides “life to the full” (Jn. 10:10).

What more do we need? 

When we allow a desire for money or possessions to overtake our desire for God, we give in to the sin of discontentment. We are, essentially, being ungodly or unChrist-like. 

Worst of all, when we allow discontentment and greed to take root, we model this sinful pursuit and priority for our children. We not only give them gift after gift at Christmas (and beyond) but also give them a roadmap that leads to this sinful disposition. 

2. Keep your focus on the two “E’s”—essentials and eternity.

“For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it. But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that.”          1 Timothy 6:7-8

Most of us live comfortably with conveniences and material possessions at our fingertips. That’s why it’s so hard to keep our focus on the “essentials” in life.

But what if this Christmas you only spent money on your meal and one new outfit per family member? Would you hear groans coming from your children’s lips? 

As Christ-followers we need to keep our focus on eternity and not become too comfortable with our lives on earth. Buying stuff all the time deepens our comfort level here, making our eternal home less and less appealing.

Is that the message you want your children to learn from your life? That this is all there is? 

Please know that I’m preaching this to myself since I love to give gifts and be generous, not just at Christmas but all year-’round. But perhaps I’m letting the money trap imprison my heart and my family’s hearts with this approach. What do you think?

3. Love God more than anything or anyone else. 

“Those who want to get rich fall into temptation and a trap and into many foolish and harmful desires that plunge people into ruin and destruction. For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.” 1 Timothy 6:9-10

If we do not love God more than anyone or anything else, we won’t be the only ones falling into this money trap. We will be teaching our children to love money and things more than God.

This could mean your entire family will wander away from Christ, at least wandering away from a vibrant faith. 

Perhaps, this is the most important truth and tip I’m sharing today. After all, I can talk all day about loving God and sound more like a clanging cymbal, right? 😉 

What exactly does loving God more than anything or anyone look like?

For me, it means pouring more money into ministries and charitable opportunities than into my family’s closets, toy boxes and bank accounts. We certainly have more opportunities to help people out in 2020 than ever before! 

Again, for me, it also means living simply and not expecting my husband to buy me the umpteenth pair of jeans or buying him another technology gadget this Christmas.

Most of all, it means contemplating what I will give to Jesus at Christmas and then resolving to give this to Him all throughout the new year.

One gift that I plan to give Jesus is more time praying for and seizing opportunities to share my faith in 2021. The second gift will be to give financially to a family in our church that has been hit hard by COVID.

I hope you’ll consider what you and your family can do for and give to others at a time when we celebrate the ultimate gift of Christ!

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What is one gift you want to give to Jesus this year? 

 

What have you done to avoid or get out of the “money trap” in the past? 

 


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22 responses to “How to Avoid the Money Trap with Your Children”

  1. This is so good, Beth. Maybe this year will be the Christmas that many learn to dial it back down to a manageable level. It’s definitely gotten out of hand. It’s hard to even know what to buy when everyone has everything they need already! Yet many around us have very little. May I be wise with my spending dollars too. Will you get to see your newest grandbaby at Christmas? This is SUCH a hard time when we want to make visits. 😦

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    1. That might be one very positive outcome from this pandemic. Our incomes are restricted, so we give in better, wiser ways, Lisa. I join you in that sentiment and goal–being wise in what we spend this Christmas and beyond!

      I will! At least, it looks like it. But with the cases and restrictions on the rise, who knows? I will be crushed if I don’t get to see him, though! It’s been far too long to simply look at pictures and videos of him. Yes, indeed, it is! Very hard! Thanks for coming by and checking in on me!

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  2. Beth,
    Oh how I wish I had read this post years ago!! I know I made a lot of mistakes with regard to money and my kids – especially at Christmas! I love the two “E’s”. I’m asking this year, that my gift go straight to eternity so I told my hubby, I just want my gifts going to the precious children RCF serves. There’s really nothing I need or want. I hope you had a wonderful bday and were surrounded by those you love!
    Blessings,
    Bev xx

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  3. This is the perfect post for everyone to read at this time of year, Beth. When our kids were little and money was tight, we told them they each would get 3 Christmas presents – just like Jesus did (gold, frankincense, and myrrh). It prevented excess focus on presents and saved our very tight budget! Now, with my grandchildren, we tend to spoil them because we can, but we still focus on the birth of Jesus as the reason for the season.

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    1. That’s a great idea and suggestion, Laurie! I’m so glad you shared it!

      I’m with you on the spoiling of grandchildren! It’s so hard not to when we have more money than we did when our own kids were small. Yes! Jesus is the reason and we should guard that even as grandparents! 😉

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  4. Love this advice and reminder, Beth! I completely agree and have had many of the same thoughts. It can be tricky to navigate this time of year with our children, and is so vital that we keep Christ at the center of it all!

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    1. Thanks for your encouragement, Tabatha! I’m glad you resonate with what I’ve shared today. It’s much easier for me to sit in this position as a grandparent than when I was buying gifts for my own kids. But God has used perspective to teach me a lot! Hugs to you!

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  5. Money’s not an issue here,
    though we don’t have a lot,
    enough for pizza and for beer;
    what we can’t buy we mourn not.
    Barb just got a kitten
    of soft and golden hair,
    but with tapeworm it’s been s***in’
    almost everywhere,
    and so of to the vet she goes
    to give Goldie a hand,
    and this is why most of our clothes
    are now secondhand,
    but I’ll be first to tell you that
    the dough is well-spent on the cat.

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    1. Yes, pets are well-worth the price tag, Andrew! They bring us so much joy and are helpless to get their needs met any other way than through our hands. Thanks for stopping by and waxing poetic. I hope your little kitten heals up fast! My son just got one himself and is thoroughly enjoying his new pet and companion!

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  6. Such a practical and Christ-focused post, Beth! Thank you for sharing these inspiring nuggets. I especially like point #2 – focus on the 2 Es.

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    1. Thanks for saying, Deborah! Yes, I liked that one too. It’s such a truism and truth for life–one that we must focus on every day of the year! Hugs to you!

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  7. Interesting the power of what we model for our children and grandchildren. Especially this year. Whether money is tight or we somehow want to make up for this year’s losses by overspending, your words are a needed caution.

    Bless you, Beth ….

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    1. Yes, when we’re in the parenting trenches, we often miss these connections our little ones are making. Now, as an empty-nester, I see the imprints on my son’s lives–both the negative ways I’ve influenced them and the positive. Just wish I had worked harder on the positives! Lol! Hugs to you, my friend!

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  8. Such a good post – we may bemoan the over commercialisation of Christmas but we have the power to make a change and that is starting with ourselves! We have already agreed, as a family, for a simpler Christmas this year and I am looking forward to the change!

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    1. Very true, Sharon! God has given us so much control over how we raise our children and mold our own lives. I’m glad to hear that you’re dialing things back. Maybe it will be the best Christmas yet?! Who knew that 2020 could end with such a positive side!

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  9. “Buying stuff all the time deepens our comfort level here, making our eternal home less and less appealing.” This statement really struck me. Well, more like convicted me. I never really thought of buying things as making my eternal home less appealing. However, when I think about it I can definitely see the issue in that. Thanks so much for this wonderful post, and the reminder that Christ IS enough. Saving and sharing:)

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    1. Yes, it convicted me too, Angela. Funny how blogging does that to us! Lol! Sometimes we write (or I do) more for myself than for the passing reader. Thanks for stopping by and encouraging me, my friend!

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  10. Beth, wishing you and yours a most blessed Christmas season. xoxo

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    1. Aww, sweet Susan! Thank you so much! I hope you are doing well and enjoying that tiny house. You’re already living the simpler life, aren’t you? And I bet it has expanded your joy!

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  11. For those of us who have gift-giving as a love language, this is difficult to do. But we can certainly channel our love into making things for people instead of just buying them stuff they don’t need.

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    1. Yes, I’m not sure if I have that as a love language, but my mother sure did, Anita. It kind of rubbed off on me and feels very important to follow her lead with my children and grandchildren. Yet, I do like your suggestion. Making things for people might be the best way to navigate this slippery slope. Thanks for coming by and joining the conversation, my friend!

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  12. Great advice especially this time of year! Thanks for sharing

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