24 Ways to Show and Grow in Grace in Your Life and Marriage

Grow in Grace

Recently I’ve been sharing about my one word for 2018—“grace!” But sharing about it versus living it out is so much easier to say than do. That’s why I really want to nail it down biblically, so that I increase my tendency to be gracious in every circumstance—including and especially in my marriage.

My hope is that you can glean some practical and biblical ways to become more gracious in your own life and marriage from my process, as well as utilizing the tool that I’ll be sharing below for anchoring your own “one word.”

Grow in Grace

After all … [bctt tweet=”God’s grace can bring so much healing to our marriages and hearts, if we will let His grace flow. #graceheals” username=”BethSteffaniak”]

As I mentioned, the first place I want to look to for insight on how to be more grace-filled and grace-giving is the Bible.

Here are 24 ways I’m striving to show and grow in grace this year …

1. Grace is expressed through my spiritual gifts (1 Peter 4:10).

So I will …

  • Share my writings and thought processes on grace with others.
  • Write love and “grace” letters to my hubby at least once-a-month.
  • Ask God to use all of my spiritual gifts to bless my husband and others.

2. Find God’s grace whenever I’m humble (James 4:6).

So I will …

  • Take captive prideful and angry/entitled thoughts.
  • Replace these thoughts with Bible verses I memorize—meditating on them in my moment of need.
  • Apologize quicker.
  • Ask God daily to give me a sober view of my abilities and talents.
  • Avoid arguing my point—especially with my hubby.
  • Avoid criticism as much as possible.

3. It is tied to being generous with others (2 Cor. 8:7).

So I will …

  • Show grace (patience, forgiveness) to my husband (in particular), even when he and others do not show it to me.  See my last post on this.
  • Give/show grace whenever I’m tempted to complain or ruminate.
  • Offer encouraging words/actions to my hubby (and others) more this year than last.

4. Grace enables me to persevere in weakness and trials (2 Cor. 12:8-9).

So I will …

  • Seek Christ’s strength—not relying on my own—to persevere during setbacks and suffering.
  • View trials as opportunities to grow in God’s grace.

5. It strengthens my heart (Heb. 13:9) when I approach the “throne of grace” (Heb. 4:16).

So I will …

  • Be more prayerful, especially in key moments of need and weakness.
  • Recognize Christ is in me and He is the King of all grace!

6. I find grace as I get to know God and His ways more (2 Peter 1:2).

So I will …

  • Learn more about God through His Word, prayer and worship.
  • Memorize and meditate on Scripture (I’m going to at least memorize Heb. 4:16, Ps. 139:23-24, and James 4:6 this year).

7. I defile and hinder grace in my life when I harbor bitterness (Hebrews 12:15).

So I will …

  • Continually/daily seek God’s examination of my heart (Ps. 139:23-24).
  • Confess any bitterness or anger the Lord reveals to me—seeking His cleansing.
  • Rest more in God’s protection and care when mistreated.

8. My conversations can and should be full of grace (Col. 4:2-6).

So I will …

  • Bathe my words—especially questionable ones—in prayer before speaking.
  • Be more diplomatic and gracious in what I say and how I say it.
  • Hold my tongue whenever I can’t do this! 😉

Each one of these measurable actions/attitudes adds up to 24 ways that you and I can show, grow in, and receive more grace!

Download and print out my—One Word Tool—so that you can biblically anchor and clarify your efforts to live out your one word in 2018 (whether it’s “grace” or not).

There’s one more thing that I would add to this process and my points above. I would encourage you to find someone to hold you accountable in the area and actions you hope to increase and improve in.

If you’re brave enough, ask your accountability partner (best if it is a same-gender partner, or spouse) to ask you about your progress once-a-week on a certain, agreed-upon day. If once-a-week is too often, adjust based on your routines and responsibilities without losing the momentum consistent accountability brings. Sending a quick text or email can be just as effective too!

I hope you’ll also let me know how it’s helping you and your relationships (particularly your marriage), and I’ll share how I’m doing with mine as well! #stayintouch

[bctt tweet=”Let me know how you’re doing on your ‘one word’ and I’ll pray for you, as well as sharing how I’m doing with mine! #accountability” username=”BethSteffaniak”]

My next post will be, “4 Reasons God Does Not Want You to Marry Your Soulmate.” I hope that statement is intriguing to you and brings you back to MM, because I sure like seeing you at my door!


What is one measurable and obvious way you are living out your “one word” or 2018 resolution?


How do you think being more grace-filled and grace-giving would improve your marriage and relationships?


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10 responses to “24 Ways to Show and Grow in Grace in Your Life and Marriage”

  1. Love this post, Beth! Shared on Pinterest and Twitter. Thanks for the encouragement today!


  2. GRACE…oh for grace to trust Him more. Sharing.


  3. Andrew Budek-Schmeisser Avatar
    Andrew Budek-Schmeisser

    Great stuff, Beth! This bullet-point call to grace will help a LOT of people.

    I’d add, if I may, the grace of loyalty. If you have a friend who disparages your mate, resolve to terminate (or at least minimize) that relationship. Satan uses others to do his work; banish them.


  4. I love your One Word of Grace. A most beautiful choice, Beth. And to have these 24 specific ways to show it is a sure-fire way of reaching your goal of keeping grace front and center all year. My word this year is Mystery, which is a little hard to get a handle on, but God will work it out. 🙂 Thanks for sharing with us!


  5. Such a great post. The time and research you spent in God’s word to give us the scripture to go with your points is admirable. God is already teaching you so much about how to walk with grace this year.

    I tend to forget how grace is tied with humility. Thank you for teaching me more in that area. For my one word, surrender, I have not thought of a specific, measurable goal. I’ll have to work on that. Thank you for your insight.


  6. Debbie Williams Avatar

    Beth love your word and I really love how you have broken it down making it so much easier to live.


  7. I appreciate seeing how you applied your one word…very helpful! Mine are Courage/Trust/Peace and so one way I’m working that out is remembering God’s acts of faithfulness to His people and to me specifically and then praying boldly.


  8. Bev @ Walking Well With God Avatar
    Bev @ Walking Well With God

    Stopping by here is like coming home 🙂 I love your word….”Grace” …..wouldn’t this world be a better place if we ALL wanted to be grace filled and givers of grace?? I’m going to print out your “Tool” guide and apply it to walking through a year of “Embrace” – my word. I do agree that one of the places that we need to show grace is in our marriage. My husband sticks with me through thick and thin and I need to be more humble and look for ways to show God’s grace to him. Thank you, as always, for nuggets of truth to ponder.
    Blessings to you sweet friend,
    Bev xx


  9. Good idea! I don’t know the Bible as well as you do 😦 so I don’t think I could link my theme for this year (“born again”) into Scripture like you do here (is there an app or a web site where I could search the Bible for key terms?). But I do plan to write regularly and often on the blog about how I am living out the theme — as much as anything else that will keep the idea alive in my mind.


  10. I saw the word grow in the title and couldn’t wait to read! 😉 This is gold! I love how you applied grace using the Word. Grace is so key! Thanks for the inspiration. 🙂


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