Today we are honored to have a guest post from Cassie of True Agape, who is also our host for this fine Wedded Wednesday! To find out more about Cassie and her blog, check out her bio below.

 

If your life is anything like mine it can easily become very busy with to-do’s, events, projects and tasks. If I am not very intentional I allow these things to take my attention away from the more important things like my husband and daughter.

Since I am a doer and a person that likes to check things off my list, I have to be very focused in how I spend my time and energy. However, there are times that the rush of life just gets the better of me. All the sudden I’m overwhelmed trying to remember the last time I really read a story to my daughter or pulling to recall the latest time that my husband and I were able to connect longer than ten minutes.

Because we live in an era of constant busyness, I feel like it is not hard to realize suddenly a month or six months has passed us by. I want to live a life that is intentional about taking care of myself, loving my husband, aiding my daughter in growth, serving others and so much more. One way I attempt to intentionally love my husband is to connect daily and partake in date nights.

For us, with a 9 month old and business travels, we do not have a set schedule for date nights. Instead I keep an eye out for indicators that let me know my husband, Ryan, and I need a date night.

Some of these indicators are:

Can’t remember: If I can’t remember the last time we went on a date, it’s probably time for another! Not just remember what we did, but recall the actual date. Often times it’s easier to remember what we did and suffice that it wasn’t that long ago we went on a date.

Negative thoughts: If I start to have negative thoughts about the tiniest of things that pertain to my husband I know that we need to reconnect on an emotional level. I need to remember all the things I absolutely love about him. We need to take the time to create oneness.

Feeling unmotivated: Typically, if I am in a spot where I’m feeling unmotivated in general about life, then a fun time with my best friend where I don’t have to be a mom, business owner, maid or cook is just what I need. But instead I get to be just me. A time to re-energize and be reminded of my vision.

Tough times: When there is a season of tough times in life in general or within our marriage I know I need to connect with Ryan more often. I need to know that we are facing these uncertainties together.

What I have come to realize is dates can look a lot of different way depending on schedule and budget. Some can be typical dates and some are more uncommon dates. Sometimes a date is a run together, and other times a date is an outing where we leave the baby with a sitter. Right now, we are in a time where we have a lot of at home dates. It’s not nearly as important what kind of dates we partake in, but rather that we make the time and effort to continue to date.

After talking with a lot of wives I realized many struggled, just as I did, to ensure date nights happened. This discovery made me dig deeper into the issue. Ladies shared many things they hoped to get out of date nights and why they were a must for them. That is when I published Creating True  Agape: 20 at home dates last April. We are currently celebrating a year since it’s release! As a way to ensure wives are able to date their husbands we are offering these 20 dates for $4.99 which is 25 cents per date! This special ends Monday, May 4th 2015.

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I’m interested to know . . .

What are indicators for you that let you know you need a date night?

Cassie is a wife, mom, runner and a marriage and family blogger at True Agape. She believes respect, trust, understanding and willingness creates happy marriages and families. She strives to keep those things the main focus in her daily life and wants to challenge others to do the same. You can get her free 6 page guide “The Secret to Making your Husband Feel Loved” when you sign up for True Agape’s monthly newsletter.

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