Do You Have Emotionally Healthy Spirituality?

Recently I was at a conference and had the privilege of meeting author Peter Scazzero while attending the class he led on Emotionally Healthy Discipleship. I’d read his Emotionally Healthy Spirituality book years ago and gleaned so much wisdom and practical/spiritual insight from it, so I was really excited to hear more from him. (By the way, he’s currently working on writing The Emotionally Healthy Marriage. Can’t wait for that to be published!)

But back to EHS, I loved this book. It’s one of my all-time favorites. It helped me to become aware of many “unhealthy” areas in my spiritual life, which ultimately impacted the health of my relationships, in particular my marriage. In the book you’ll find …

The symptoms of emotionally unhealthy spirituality:

  • Using God to run from God
  • Ignoring the emotions of anger, sadness, and fear
  • Dying to the wrong things
  • Denying the past’s impact on the present
  • Dividing our lives into “secular” and “sacred” compartments
  • Doing for God instead of being with God
  • Spiritualizing away conflict
  • Covering over brokenness, weakness, and failure
  • Living without limits
  • Judging other people’s spiritual journey

Have you practiced any of these? If so, through this book you’ll learn practical ways to transform and strengthen the health of your spiritual relationship and life.

My husband and I were talking the other day about just how crucial a healthy and growing spiritual life is to the health of a marriage. I know for me, being established in healthy spiritual practices has …

  • Helped me to trust God and hang on tight when everything around me seems to be in chaos.
  • Given me the insight to recognize my own failures and sins and humbly confess them to God and my spouse.
  • Helped me to feel God’s comfort and nearness when I’ve felt alone in life and marriage.
  • Given me the grace I’ve needed to extend mercy and love to my husband—especially in times of conflict … just to name a few!

Dr. Scazzero has generously given me one copy of Emotionally Healthy Spirituality to give away to one of you! Yay!!! He’s also given me his wife, Geri’s, most recent book, The Emotionally Healthy Woman. I will be reading and reviewing her book before giving it away at a later time. So stay tuned for that giveaway in the future!

But for today, please leave a comment in my comment section to be entered to win. And if you haven’t already “liked” my Messy Marriage Facebook Page, I’d love for you to click here and do that as well!  Deadline for entering is Friday (7th) at midnight. (Please be aware that you’ll need to sign in to Disqus using your email to be entered as well. Otherwise, I won’t know how to contact you! 🙂

Added June 8th –
I’m excited to announce that “Becky” was our winner of the giveaway this time! She was selected through “Random Number Generator.” I always love giving books away and I’ve got many more giveaways in the near future, so if you didn’t win this time come on back for another try next time!

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33 responses to “Do You Have Emotionally Healthy Spirituality?”

  1. Oh my counseling buddy, we sure are cut from the same cloth … http://creeksideministries.blogspot.com/2008/07/10-killers-of-genuine-mature-community.html

    I can’t wait to read the Scazzaros other books because the 2 Emotionally Healthy books I read were fabulous … real gamechangers for me!

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  2. Oh my counseling buddy, we sure are cut from the same cloth … http://creeksideministries.blogspot.com/2008/07/10-killers-of-genuine-mature-community.htmlI can’t wait to read the Scazzaros other books because the 2 Emotionally Healthy books I read were fabulous … real gamechangers for me!

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  3. Oh, Beth, I sure see myself in a few of those things on the unhealthy list. I am ALWAYS challenged when I stop by here. Thank you. I’m adding this book to my summer reading list! (And crossing my fingers that I’ll win a copy!) 🙂 Thanks for hosting WW.

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  4. Oh, Beth, I sure see myself in a few of those things on the unhealthy list. I am ALWAYS challenged when I stop by here. Thank you. I’m adding this book to my summer reading list! (And crossing my fingers that I’ll win a copy!) 🙂 Thanks for hosting WW.

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  5. I have never heard of his book but it sounds wonderful! Thanks for the giveaway (I already like your fb page) and thanks for hosting!

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  6. I have never heard of his book but it sounds wonderful! Thanks for the giveaway (I already like your fb page) and thanks for hosting!

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  7. Dear Beth
    For a long time in my life, I could answer yes to nearly all those questions and I was so unhappy! Until I realized that I was labouring heavily under the yoke of religion! I had my own set of “10 commandments” which I judged everyone around with, including myself. Oh, you can just think how wonderful it was when I finally heard Jesus calling me to just come to Him and rest in Him.
    Much love and sweet blessings
    Mia

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  8. Dear BethFor a long time in my life, I could answer yes to nearly all those questions and I was so unhappy! Until I realized that I was labouring heavily under the yoke of religion! I had my own set of “10 commandments” which I judged everyone around with, including myself. Oh, you can just think how wonderful it was when I finally heard Jesus calling me to just come to Him and rest in Him.Much love and sweet blessingsMia

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  9. Hmmm…every single one of those bullet points intrigues me. I’ve never considered using God to run from God, for example. I must know more! Hope I win…but if not, I’ll go get the book anyway. 🙂

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  10. Hmmm…every single one of those bullet points intrigues me. I’ve never considered using God to run from God, for example. I must know more! Hope I win…but if not, I’ll go get the book anyway. 🙂

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  11. I have a difficult time with each of the even numbered bullet points. Emotions are so hard to deal with…or to figure out! Looks like a great book, thanks for sharing!

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  12. I have a difficult time with each of the even numbered bullet points. Emotions are so hard to deal with…or to figure out! Looks like a great book, thanks for sharing!

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  13. This book sounds awesome. Thanks, Beth!
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  14. This book sounds awesome. Thanks, Beth!miyax15 at yahoo dot com

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  15. Read this two years ago at the beach, so now you have put me in vacation mode! This is a great book that I’d recommend in a heartbeat. Some of the books referenced are fantastic. So much I could say about spirituality and the depths that has brought to my discipleship. Thanks Beth!

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  16. Read this two years ago at the beach, so now you have put me in vacation mode! This is a great book that I’d recommend in a heartbeat. Some of the books referenced are fantastic. So much I could say about spirituality and the depths that has brought to my discipleship. Thanks Beth!

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  17. Thank you for your blog-inistry! Sounds like an amazing book that would apply to me as I aspire to be a Biblical counsellor one day if God calls me and my husband who is embarking on becoming a Deacon and training to be an elder. Thank you for recommending this!

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  18. Thank you for your blog-inistry! Sounds like an amazing book that would apply to me as I aspire to be a Biblical counsellor one day if God calls me and my husband who is embarking on becoming a Deacon and training to be an elder. Thank you for recommending this!

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  19. I’m looking for a book for a small group – and I think this would be something to look into – I like the parts about not covering up weakness and ignoring the past – both can become mighty things for God:) Can’t wait to read it!

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  20. I’m looking for a book for a small group – and I think this would be something to look into – I like the parts about not covering up weakness and ignoring the past – both can become mighty things for God:) Can’t wait to read it!

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  21. I’m sure this goes without saying, but my relationship with Bryan would be nothing without God in the center. Not to imply that we are the epitome of emotional health, but God is the foundation that keeps us as healthy as we are!!

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  22. I’m sure this goes without saying, but my relationship with Bryan would be nothing without God in the center. Not to imply that we are the epitome of emotional health, but God is the foundation that keeps us as healthy as we are!!

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  23. This book sounds quite heart-provoking!

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  24. This book sounds quite heart-provoking!

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  25. You and your husband are spot on about healthy spirituality = healthy marriage. It is the compass for me and my husband as well. THanks for a great site! And thanks for the link up and CHANCE TO WIN! Blessings to you today 🙂

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  26. You and your husband are spot on about healthy spirituality = healthy marriage. It is the compass for me and my husband as well. THanks for a great site! And thanks for the link up and CHANCE TO WIN! Blessings to you today 🙂

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  27. This looks like one I will need to add to my reading list. I am reading one right now about Spiritual Secrets to Weight Loss and it talks a lot about being spiritually healthy and Christ being the center of our focus. I have also noticed my marriage relationship changing in a positive way when I am healthy spiritually but in reading some of the symptoms of being unhealthy, I think I could use some refreshers. 🙂

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  28. This looks like one I will need to add to my reading list. I am reading one right now about Spiritual Secrets to Weight Loss and it talks a lot about being spiritually healthy and Christ being the center of our focus. I have also noticed my marriage relationship changing in a positive way when I am healthy spiritually but in reading some of the symptoms of being unhealthy, I think I could use some refreshers. 🙂

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  29. “Dying to the wrong things” ,…now that’s something to think and chew on…

    “Doing for God instead of being with God” stands out to me immediately..cos it’s something I battle a lot of times. I am not where I used to be but it’s still one of those areas that i have to be intentional about, otherwise I go on Martha-mode quite easily!
    This sounds like a powerful book. Thanks for talking about it. Looking forward to hearing more on the wife’s book !

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  30. “Dying to the wrong things” ,…now that’s something to think and chew on…”Doing for God instead of being with God” stands out to me immediately..cos it’s something I battle a lot of times. I am not where I used to be but it’s still one of those areas that i have to be intentional about, otherwise I go on Martha-mode quite easily!This sounds like a powerful book. Thanks for talking about it. Looking forward to hearing more on the wife’s book !

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  31. Beth, my unhealthy spiritual practice of choice is spiritualizimg away conflict . I don’t like conflict and generally have little of it. But in marriage it’s a staple , and I find that I just can’t grow (live ;). ) without it. Thanks for the reminder to enter into it? And thereby grow. Pam

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  32. Beth, my unhealthy spiritual practice of choice is spiritualizimg away conflict . I don’t like conflict and generally have little of it. But in marriage it’s a staple , and I find that I just can’t grow (live ;). ) without it. Thanks for the reminder to enter into it? And thereby grow. Pam

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