Love vs. Infatuation and WW Linkup

Love is . . .
Developed in times of difficulty.
Infatuation is . . .
Spoiled in times of difficulty.

Love is . . .
Empowered by what is good and true.
Infatuation is . . .
Fueled by good times.

Love is . . .
A result of intentional and sacrificial choices that eventually bloom into feelings.
Infatuation is . . .
Quickly ignited by feelings and images—that extinguish just as quickly.

Love is . . .
Persevering no matter what trouble comes your way.
Infatuation is . . .
Preoccupation with whomever makes you feel good in the moment.

Love is . . .
Seeking God to fill the void when your loved one isn’t so lovable.
Infatuation is . . .
Pursuing an ever-elusive “soul-mate” in an illegitimate attempt to feel complete.

Love is . . .
Hard work—based in faith and commitment.
Infatuations is  . . .
Effortless and involuntary—based in adrenalin and dopamine.

Love is . . .
Fed by a continual “dying-to-self” and surrender to our great God.
Infatuation is . . .
Fed by self-centeredness and grandiosity.

Love is . . .
Established by giving and receiving respect.
Infatuation is . . .
Energized by being the object of worship.

Love is . . .
Strengthened by fearful self-disclosures that pave the way to a deeper bond.
Infatuation is . . .
Weakened by fearful revelations that shatter the dream.

So, which of the two—infatuation or love–>do you pursue most in your marriage? 

If you’re pursuing “infatuation” more than love, then you’re putting your marriage at risk!

 

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12 responses to “Love vs. Infatuation and WW Linkup”

  1. I’m with Alicia, I never considered how the choices we make in marriage are either in love or infatuation! It’s the deep vs. shallow, long term vs. short term, God’s way vs. the world’s conversation, isn’t it? So often in counseling we want to tell couples to just GROW UP! And this helps us to see (in that same way) how couples are seeking infatuation, not love. Great post, thanks so much for sharing with us. I’m stopping over from Intentionally Yours and we LOVE Messy Marriage!

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  2. Funny how you and I are on the same wavelength this week! Thanks so much!

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  3. Great list of the differences. Thanks for sharing!Megan

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  4. Love this post! Will share on Pinterest!

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  5. this is good, Beth … lots of food for thought … and a bit of self-evaluation, yes?

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  6. Do you know what I value most about this post? It helps me to see that I really do fall heavy to the “love” side. Thanks for this clear line of distinction, Beth. I’m saving it for my daughters when they’re older!

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  7. Great list, Beth. In all my reading, I recognize the “infatuation” feelings as what people find when they enter into affairs of any kind. Self-gratifying, but shallow and short-lived. Thanks for the comparisons … terrific job!

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  8. Hi Beth,What a beautiful way to compare love with infatuation. Great, great great post!Renee @ http://www.greatpeaceacademy.com

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  9. Loved this! I had been in relationships in the past where I was infatuated with the other person and they really loved me and times when I really loved them and they were only infatuated with me. It can be a blinding thing this infatuation. Great post

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  10. Great distinction between the two, Beth. Very helpful. Early on in my dating relationship with Adam, I’d definitely lean more toward infatuation. While I would say I loved Adam before we got married, I couldn’t really distinguish between the two until after we were married. It took me awhile to fully comprehend dying to self and unconditionally love my spouse.

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  11. Wow Beth, now that you put it so plainly and clearly! Honestly I never think about infatuation in relation to marriage, cos I reckon i said “yes” and that ended any and all infatuations. Mercy. I see how i pursue the latter sometimes. I really like the last statement on deeper bond or shattered dreams. Makes a lot of sense to me right now.

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  12. Nice way of distinguishing between the two feelings. Both are such strong feelings but so very different in applications.

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