Today I want to share a simple 4 step plan that I refer to for perspective after I’ve just had a conflict with my husband or someone else. Although it has come in handy with others that I’ve been in conflict with, it gets used most often with my hubby, since he’s, unfortunately, my prime conflict partner!
These four steps bring greater clarity to my heart and mind because conflict seems to cause confusion and usually triggers emotions that I allow to plunge me into denial and deception.
If you feel like these steps would be helpful to you, then get out that trusty index card or note-taking app on your smart phone and record them there to carry with you wherever you go!
Step One –
Realize and remind myself:
“(Spouse’s name) is not my enemy and only hurt.”
Step Two –
Pray for God to give me perspective on this conflict and reveal the hurtful purposes of my heart.
Step Three –
Ask myself and God:
- What have I done to hurt (Spouse’s name) or respond wrong?
- What do I need to do to change and improve?
Step Four –
Apologize for my part and leave the conviction of my spouse’s sin up to God!
Now, it’s your turn!
What do you do to clear the clutter during times of conflict?
- Write in any way you feel inspired about marriage, parenthood or anything that reflects Christ’s redemption in your life.
- Be sure to include a link to Wedded Wednesday or add the WW button to your current blog post and/or sidebar.
- Visit and comment on at least one other person’s blog that’s linked up here.
Optional but encouraged:
- Consider setting up your Gravatar profile and Disqus Profile with a link to your blog … it makes it so much easier for all of us to find those of you who blog!
- If you have the time, visit those who visit your blog and comment at their place as well … sort of a “Say it forward.”
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