Do you remember when Kermit the frog sang, “It’s Not Easy Being Green” in one of those old Muppet Movies? Well, let me just say, I feel the same way, only my song says, it’s not easy being messy!
This is especially true when you’re a pastor’s wife and a marriage and family counselor, for heaven’s sake! But something within me, (God’s Spirit, I suppose) compels me to march on waving the banner for messy marriages and messy lives.
But! I really, really want to hide under the cloak of perfectionism—the guise that “everything is just fine!”
After all, I’m supposed to have it all together, right? I’m supposed to know exactly how to handle each and every conflict. I’m supposed to be controlled by the Holy Spirit at all times—especially when tempers flare and circumstances implode. That’s all well and good, if I were floating on a cloud next to Jesus . . . in other words—DEAD!!
It’s true. On that day, I will have my perfect act down. And then it won’t be an “act.” It will simply be who God makes me to be . . . in His likeness. Of course, I’m working on that likeness gig here on earth too. But try as I might, I haven’t perfected it yet!
I say all this to remind you, my readers, that we are all human and full of messiness. The moment that any of us think “we’ve got this” is the moment that “we really don’t.” And I’m not about to go on in this life believing or spreading the lie that perfectionism is better than humility and authenticity! Been there, done that, and I know without a doubt that it just makes matters worse.
I also know that being real about my struggles can help some of you to feel that you’re not alone. And I know that sharing the lessons I’ve learned through the mistakes I’ve made gives some of you hope.
But my prayer is that you will never really see me in the answers I write about, but that you will see Him, who is perfect, guiding me and therefore guiding you too. I pray that my messes can be used by Christ to convey His message of love and redemption for all of us.
“So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall!”” 1 Corinthians 10:12 (NIV)
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” Matthew 11:28 (NIV)