If there ever was a book or book title that summed up what most messy marriages struggle with, How to Act Right When Your Spouse Acts Wrong, by Leslie Vernick would be it! I know from first hand experience that it’s a huge struggle to continue to choose the right behavior and attitude when your spouse doesn’t.
In Vernick’s book, she offers advice and insight that empowers the reader and turns the usual perspective on its head. She begins with making a case for why it’s beneficial to act right with a sometimes wrong spouse. She also gives several other step by step strategies for:
- How to respond rather than react
- How to guard your heart against negative forces
- How to center your heart on God
- How to make positive choices that result in empowerment
- How certain “Gifts of Love” can transform your marriage
The chapter that I really appreciated was the one I just mentioned – “Gifts of Love.” She helped me to see that very often there are ways to give to a difficult spouse that seem counter-intuitive, yet yield the desired result. I’ve adjusted my perspective and actions since reading this book (and this chapter in particular) and have already seen improvements in my relationship and my attitude—leaving my marriage a little less messy! Yay! So, all that to say . . .
I have a free copy of this book that I will be giving to one person* selected from random who comments/answers in this post the question: “What topic or problem would you like to hear addressed in a future post from messymarriage.com?”
The contest winner will be chosen on Friday, February 25th at 9 p.m.
, so be sure to get your comment in before the deadline. (Only one comment or entry is allowed per person)
*If you would like to remain anonymous and yet enter the contest, choose a pseudonym for public use. When I announce the winner on Friday and if you are the winner, I will need your identity emailed to me through my contact email tab.